Resentment

photo by Tami Klein

Resentment, just like any emotion, is a message. It is your heart’s way of telling you that you are not feeling supported enough. It’s so tempting when resentment bubbles up in a parenting partnership to blame the other person.

I’ve been there. Trust me.

Thankfully, and I know I am very fortunate and that this isn’t always the case, I have learned that my husband deeply desires me to be fully supported and I really, truly want the same for him. AND, I’m human and he’s human. So just like I am not always able to offer him all the support he needs, he is not always (or ever?) able to offer me all the support I need.

When resentment bubbles up, I still see it as a sign that I don’t have enough support but instead of blaming him, I (try to remember to) open up to him about needing more support and we work together to figure out how I can get it. Sometimes it’s from him, often times it’s not.

I still hear the message. I still up my support. But, I keep my partner in my corner when I’m feeling needy instead of pushing him away.